“Past The Past”

Monday, October 08, 2012

I am in a relationship with a guy who has a child from a previous relationship. He was never married to this person.  He has asked God for forgiveness and sets a great christian example for his daughter.  My question is: is it okay for me to be in this relationship being that he had a child out of wedlock (although he has asked for forgiveness), or is this something that God frowns upon?

Sincerely,
Marriage Material?

Dear Marriage Material,

Yes, it was a sin for him to have a child outside of marriage (1 Thess 4:3-4).  Yes, a christian can be forgiven of that sin (1 Jn 1:9).  Yes, it is okay for you to date and, if you desire, eventually marry him.  Sin is a horrible thing, but if you couldn’t date people who have sin in their past… you couldn’t date anyone (Rom 3:23).

The key is to make sure that you, and he, are using the Bible as the guide to your life now.  God deeply loves every human being and rejoices over each sinner that repents and turns back to Him (Lk 15:7).

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