“Past Redemption”

Sunday, September 01, 2013

There has been something that I have been really struggling with; I am in a wonderful relationship, and my boyfriend treats me very well.  He is very sweet, considerate, and always takes care of me.  I have no problems with our relationship, but I have trouble dealing with his past.  When he was younger, he walked away from God and made many mistakes, but he has since then changed, come back to God, and put his act together.  What I struggle with is he has had multiple partners, and this really bothers me.  My question then is: how do I handle the feelings I have about this? Because he is a very godly man now, I just am having a hard time dealing with jealousy and insecurities from knowing he has been with other women.

Sincerely,
The New Girl

Dear The New Girl,

Sin can be forgiven, but its consequences still affect us.  There is nothing abnormal about being bothered with your boyfriend’s checkered past.  God’s design for marriage has always been one man and one woman for a lifetime (1 Cor 7:2).  Your boyfriend’s previous choices, which he openly admits were wrong, have defiled and marred the beginnings of your relationship (Heb 13:4).  Scripturally, you have no romantic obligation to him one way or the other.  You have to decide whether you can honestly let his old baggage go.  If you believe him to be a good and trustworthy man now (and it sounds like you do), then move forward knowing that all christians come with baggage (1 Cor 6:11).

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