“Just Walk Away”

Thursday, November 21, 2013

My boyfriend is a non-believer.  I attempt to get him to see that Christ is the only way, and he doesn't listen.  Does God want me to stay with him, or am I wasting my time?

Sincerely,
Good News Girlfriend

Dear Good News Girlfriend,

God says that we should never be “unequally yoked” (2 Cor 6:14).  Our relationship with God needs to be the central focus of our life (Matt 22:37-38).  Marriage, which is the potential end result of your romantic relationship, is the most intimate union this side of heaven (Eph 5:31).  Marriage to someone that doesn’t have the same values as you is compared to two oxen being yoked to the same wagon with each oxen pulling the cart in a different direction – it will never work!  Solomon is the great example of this.  Solomon was the wisest man on the earth (1 Kgs 4:30-34).  Yet, even with all his wisdom, Solomon’s idol-worshipping wives tore his heart away from serving God (1 Kgs 11:4).  If it can happen to Solomon, it can happen to anyone.

Our religious views dictate how we live our lives.  One’s belief in God (or lack of belief) effects their ethics, how they manage finances, how they raise children, how they treat their spouse, how much effort they will put into marriage (and when they will feel justified in getting a divorce), and a plethora of other aspects in life.  In short, your religious views guide the very essence of who you are.
God designed christians to only marry other people who are “in the Lord” (1 Cor 7:39).  You will make your vows before God, and he will merely make his vows before man.  We could never, ever recommend that a christian marry an unbeliever… it would simply set you up for heartache and failure.  If your boyfriend is not willing to discuss and listen to spiritual things – it is probably time to throw this fish back; there are plenty of others in the sea.

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