“A Date With Disaster”

Friday, December 11, 2015

A friend that I have known for six years has feelings for me, but she has a bad habit of going to bars and drinking.  She claims to want a christian boyfriend, yet she is not willing to give up her current ways even after I have explained, using the Bible, why being a christian involves change.

After counseling from a church member, prayer, and reading the scriptures of King Solomon in the Bible, his folly revealed to me that I cannot be with her in a pure christian relationship.

After not reciprocating her emotions, she decided to move on and now has a boyfriend that goes to my church at home.  Is this a weaker christian falling for simply looks, or am I wrong with the message I thought the Holy Spirit revealed to me?

Sincerely,
Moral Moorings

Dear Moral Moorings,

You made the right choice, but without knowing the specifics of the new relationship she is in, we wouldn’t be quick to judge the new guy.  The Bible makes it clear that we must put our morals before anything else (Acts 5:29).  It is also clear that bad companions will corrupt good morals (1 Cor 15:33).  Furthermore, since christians should only date for the purpose of trying to find a future mate… immoral boyfriends/girlfriends are a bad decision.  Christians should only seek to marry others who are also “in the Lord” (1 Cor 7:39).

You are properly seeing the Scriptures (which is how the Holy Spirit reveals His will to us).  Solomon was destroyed by his ungodly wives (1 Kgs 11:4), a fate that you are wise to avoid.  Circumstances may have changed, or this woman’s character might have altered now that she is dating this other man, or he may simply have not planted his feet firmly enough to stand by his God… only God knows the specifics.  Regardless, you made the right and Biblical choice to place God before this woman.

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