“What's Love Got To Do With It?”

Friday, December 16, 2016

Hi, I am a twenty-one-year-old English major; I have one more semester before I graduate.  My problem: I don't believe that romantic love exists.  I know there are others that think the same.  Most people think they are in love, but when something comes along and they break up, they find out it wasn't love or that they hate the person.  Relationships to me are pointless.  It's unnecessary stress; more than half of marriages end in divorce within the first two to five years.  I can be completely successful without someone.  I actually thought about caring for someone, tried, but couldn't.  Is there something wrong?  I'm in no way apathetic or whatever; I just don't put emotions into something that I feel isn't worth it.  I care about things.  Rarely have I been angry.  I've never been jealous.  I'm happy when I need to be happy.  I'm focused on graduating and getting the things I need done.  I get emotional over things such as when my grandfather died; I actually cried.  Am I incapable of caring about the one person that God may have sent for me to be in a romantic relationship with?

Sincerely,
Love Nausea

Dear Love Nausea,

Romantic love is a real thing, but it isn’t a necessity… and some people never get married.  The Bible dedicates an entire book of the Bible (Song of Solomon) to the subject of romantic love.  Marriage, when pursued by godly people, can be one of the most wonderful blessings on this planet.  After all, two are better than one (Eccl 4:9).  However, Christ made it clear that romantic love isn’t for everyone – some people were born without the desire for that type of relationship (Matt 19:12).  Paul wasn’t married and made it clear that he was able to serve the Lord more efficiently because of it (1 Cor 7:32-35).  You don’t have to pursue romantic love, and you are in now way “defective” if you aren’t interested in marriage.  We are all uniquely made by the Lord and have the freedom to serve Him through marriage or without it.  Don’t look down on those that pursue romance, and don’t feel bad about being different.

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