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“Mrs. Minister?”
Categories: FALSE WORSHIP, MEN & WOMEN, PREACHING/TEACHING, RELATIONSHIPS, RELIGIONS, WORSHIPI am a minister/evangelist and a widow with four children. I have just reunited with a childhood sweetheart. We haven't seen each other in thirty years. We have been intimate and want to get married in six months. He is saved and a deacon at his church in another state. He has been a member for twenty years. I am relocating to his state. Our main problem is that he will not compromise or is willing to change his church or denomination. I really feel bad because I have fallen in love and want to be married again after twenty-three years of marriage to my late husband. I have a call in my life to minister to women and children. I want to be with him at his church, but I know it wouldn't be long. What do I do? We need to clean up our act; I will not minister and treat God with disrespect in the pulpit. What should I do?Sincerely,
PerplexedDear Perplexed,
The best way for you to not treat God with disrespect in the pulpit would be to stay out of the pulpit. You are worried about which denomination to be a part of, but all denominationalism is wrong (see “Down With Denominationalism” for further details). You are worried about mistreating the pulpit by being married to a man of different religious views, but you ignore the fact that women aren’t supposed to be in the pulpit (1 Cor 14:34). We here at AYP have a consistent record of showing patience with people who ask questions on this site, but just like our Lord taught… we have zero patience for those who profess to teach Christ but instead are hypocrites (Matt 23:13-15). You say that you are an evangelist, and yet you ignore the most basic Bible teachings on men and women’s roles, the error of denominationalism (Eph 4:4-6), and depending on what you mean by “we have been intimate”, maybe even have ignored God’s teachings on marriage and sex (Heb 13:4). Ma’am, you are no minister of Christ (Matt 7:21-23).
