“A Struggle Of Faith”

Monday, April 06, 2020

     I'm in the process of overcoming a sexual sin.  The problem is that I can't get rid of these sinful thoughts and desires.  I honestly have no clue of what to do.  I pray, I read, and I study, but the desires and thoughts remain to the point where I think my head’s going to explode.  What should I do?

Sincerely,
Struggling

Dear Struggling,

Overcoming addiction is a difficult process because the struggle often gets worse as soon as we try to fight it, and we feel so weak at times, and the battle so insurmountable.  How you are feeling right now is very normal and a sign that you are truly fighting this sin.  Here are some things to consider that might help:

1. Are you trying to change all on your own? God says two are stronger than one (Eccl 4:9-10). In the case of sin like pornography, many people try and struggle through it alone without seeking help because of the shame involved in it becoming known. This rarely, if ever, works. Telling someone, even just one trusted friend, and using things like Covenant Eyes accountability software can make all the difference in such circumstances.
2. Are you putting yourself in compromising situations? Sexual addictions require isolation and there are typically habits and routines involved that lead up to consummation of the sin. You may need to look to change habits, routines, and make sure you aren’t isolating yourself from real life.  Remember, Christ said it would be better to remove even your own hand if it would free you from a sin (Matt 5:30).

Removing sin from our lives is a constant struggle. God is ready to forgive you ‘seventy times seven’ as you fight to defeat this sin, but you must look yourself in the mirror and make sure you are taking the steps necessary to change your life.

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