“God Draws A Line”

Saturday, August 03, 2013

I've been married to my rapist now for twenty-eight years.  I'm not claiming "marital rape", but rather, he raped me when I was sixteen years old.  After several times, I ended up pregnant, and my parents made me marry him.  Over the years, he has cheated more than been faithful, and he has in the past broken my bones.  All these years, he has had a porn addiction to which he still prefers to come in from work and view his garbage on the Internet.  When I complained to someone about it, they apparently confronted him about it, and he apparently told this person that I view this garbage with him.  I do not view such garbage.  I do not stoop to his level.  Really needing your help.  Thank you.

Sincerely,
In Bad Company

Dear In Bad Company,

You have every right to leave him… and for your safety and spiritual health, you probably should.  Matt 19:9 makes it clear that you have a right to divorce your spouse when they have committed adultery (you said he has on multiple occasions).  Abusive husbands paint a picture that their wives can’t leave them… this simply isn’t true.  Even if he hadn’t committed adultery, you should separate from him for your own safety, and if there are still children in the home – leave for their safety as well.  As a victim of domestic violence, you should find a safe place to (at the very least) temporarily move to.  If you need help finding a safe haven for battered women… please e-mail us, and we will help you find somewhere.  Your husband isn’t treating you in a biblical way (1 Pet 3:7), and you have to act.

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