“Keeping Your Vows”

Tuesday, May 17, 2016

My husband and I have had a difficult marriage and were on the verge of discussing a divorce when a mutual male friend of ours (also having marriage problems) kissed me.  My husband and I are now about to start the divorce process, and I am in love with another man, the friend; we will call him Steve.  Steve and I are friends.  Steve's wife and I are friends, and I have been trapped between them for weeks.  The problem is, I am so in love with him that I can't see clearly.  He says that he feels the same way for me, but he doesn’t want to tell her because they have a baby.  She said that she will fight to the death for their marriage, and he says that their marriage is already over.  I am so hurt, confused, angry, lonely, and mad at myself and him and her!!!  I could possibly lose both of their friendships and his love... what can I do?  Please help!!!!!!!!

Sincerely,
The Other Woman

Dear The Other Woman,

We will give you the same advice Jesus gave to an adulteress woman: go and sin no more (Jhn 8:11).  You are married and in an adulteress relationship with another woman’s husband.  That is wrong.  You only have one choice: flee fornication (1 Cor 6:18).  You have millions of emotions running through your mind and heart and are – by your own admission –deeply confused.  Don’t trust your own judgment; trust the Scriptures.  God hates divorce (Mal 2:16).  What you are doing is deeply sinful, and your soul is in great peril.  You think your friendships are what are at stake… it is your very soul that is on the line.  Permanently cut off your relationship with this man now.

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