“I Don't Want No More Of Army Life”

Monday, November 14, 2016

I have married a man whom I think may suffer from narcissism.  At the least, he is not saved.  This has caused him to make some really bad decisions, and now he has gotten hurt from going into the army at an older age.  I could go on and on about his mistakes… no point in that.  What I need to know is what do I do now?  Everyone, including my pastor, says to divorce him.  However, I find no peace in that because I cannot see where laziness, foolishness, etc. are grounds for divorce.  Please advise.

Sincerely,
Wife Under Duress

Dear Wife Under Duress,

You are right to not divorce him.  The Bible specifically says that the only reason you would have a right to divorce him is if adultery had been committed (Matt 19:9).  Since your husband is an unbeliever, the Bible also says that you can accept a divorce from him if he seeks one (1 Cor 7:12-15).  As long as he wants to stay married, you should continue to allow your influence to make a difference in his life.  It is very alarming that a pastor in your church would teach that it is okay to divorce your husband when the Scriptures are so clear on this issue.  We are very sorry that you are going through such an immense struggle at this time.  If you would like help finding a faithful preacher or congregation in your area to get some counseling from, we would be happy to help try and locate one for you.  Our e-mail is askyourpreacher@mvchurchofchrist.org.

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