“For Richer Or Poorer”

Tuesday, November 15, 2016

I have an important question to ask.  I am in a wheelchair, and I’m disabled.  I am in a nursing home now, but I’m getting out of here soon, and I’m getting my own apartment.  The thing is, I cant live by myself because I’m not able to fully take care of myself.  I met a woman that wants to live with me and take care of me for the rest of my life.  I do love her very much, but I can’t get married to her.  The reason why is because I’m on social security disability benefits.  I will lose all my social security disability benefits if I get married.  Will I be living in sin if we live together the rest of my life?  Will I be living a ungodly life?  What if we had a sexual relationship while living together?  Will I be living an ungodly and sinful life?  Thank you for your help.

Sincerely,
Wondering On Wheels

Dear Wondering On Wheels,

There is a reason that the marriage vows include the words "for richer or for poorer".  We can certainly sympathize with your difficult financial circumstances, but living together without getting married is always a sin.  God promises that if we trust Him and do what is right, He will always take care of us (Rom 8:28).  If you truly love this woman and want to get married, then you should both count the cost and just say, “I do”.  No matter what, it would be ungodly to have sexual relations outside of marriage (1 Cor 7:2).

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