My husband and I have been together now for five years.  He has always believed that he makes all the decisions for the household, and it is that way because he is the man.  He believes that even if I disagree with a decision that he is making, my job is to support him (even if it against what Christ intends) and be good with it.  I want to be the woman that God created me to be, but I have a real hard time keeping my mouth shut when he makes really dumb decisions about things that I know are going to mean disaster for not only our marriage, but for our children, too.  Even when I make a stand and say to him that what he is doing is a bad idea for the family and is wrong in Christ's eyes, he gets mad and tells me to shut up and that I should just stand beside him no matter what.  What Scriptures can I look up to find the strength to keep quiet and be good with his decisions no matter what?

Sincerely,
Frustrated And Struggling

Dear Frustrated And Struggling,

You should always obey Christ before your husband.  Every thought and behavior should be mastered and made to obey Christ (2 Cor 10:5).  If your husband desires for you to do something that is wrong… you have every right to stand up to him and say, “No.”  Christ knew that the gospel would be divisive at times (Matt 10:34-36).  Ultimately, we must choose Christ above all others (Matt 10:37).

You are right to obey your husband (1 Pet 3:1), but he is also bound to show you love and gentleness (1 Pet 3:7).  A godly marriage is built upon both spouses choosing to serve the Lord first – and then each other.  Show strength to yield when the issue isn’t a moral one, but show strength to stand firm when it is a matter of Bible truth.

5 minutes a day
5 days a week
1 New Testament in a year

There are 261 weekdays in a year, and there are 260 chapters in the New Testament. By reading one chapter, Monday through Friday, you will read the whole New Testament by the end of the year. The Daily Cup series is to help with that goal.

Happy Studying!

"The LORD is my chosen portion and my cup." -- Psalm 16:5

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5 minutes a day
5 days a week
1 New Testament in a year

There are 261 weekdays in a year, and there are 260 chapters in the New Testament. By reading one chapter, Monday through Friday, you will read the whole New Testament by the end of the year. The Daily Cup series is to help with that goal.

Happy Studying!

"The LORD is my chosen portion and my cup." -- Psalm 16:5

Click here for a pdf of the study schedule - CLICK HERE

While on vacation, I had heard other christians say it’s okay to take the Lord's Supper in their hotel room.  My concern is when checking out places to take vacations, shouldn't a christian go where they know a church exists?  It seems you’re not putting God first – but your vacation.

Sincerely,
Travel Agent

Dear Travel Agent,

There are some issues that it would best not to be too dogmatic about – this is one of them.  Some brethren feel that you can take the Lord’s Supper and hold services in your hotel room on a Sunday because God says that “where two or three are gathered together, there I am” (Matt 18:20).  Others feel as you do, that all vacations should have a congregation to visit planned into the trip.  It is impossible to say that one brother is right and the other is wrong in this sort of situation.  Paul tells us that when the Scriptures leave room for personal choice, that we should allow each christian to independently decide because we all must face God independently (Rom 14:3-4).  You have a very valid point in your view of this issue and should make sure to never offend your own conscience by vacationing where there is no church (Rom 14:23), but don’t be too judgmental with those who feel differently.

What is spiritual adultery?

Sincerely,
Looking For A Definition

Dear Looking For A Definition,

Spiritual adultery is when someone worships anything other than God.  In Ex 34:15-16, God specifically refers to worshipping false gods as harlotry.  A christian’s relationship to Christ is compared to a marriage (Eph 5:23).  If a christian turns to idolatry and rebellion, it is the same as defiling a marriage with adultery.  God is a jealous God and wants us all to Himself (Ex 34:14).