Is it a sin to cuss?

Sincerely,
Watching My Words

Dear Watching My Words,

Cussing is a sin.  Eph 4:29 tells us to avoid all corrupt speech.  We need to avoid any and all language that sounds filthy or derogatory – this would include all swear words.  All our speech needs to be both clean and reverent, so God’s name is spoken well of amongst His people (1 Tim 6:1).  All our words should be gracious and seasoned so as to uplift and be an example of godliness (Col 4:6).  Cussing, swearing, and using the Lord's name in vain don't have any place in wholesome speech.

In one of your posts, you made a statement that instrumental music is a form of worship that God does not desire. How can you make such a bold statement? For all you know, He does enjoy it, but you haven't been able to tell or not, so that's why you don't do it. Other than that, you simply do not know whether God desires it or not. The onus is yours to prove God does not desire it. It's one thing to choose not to worship in a way you are unsure whether it is acceptable, but to boldly proclaim you know that God has no desire for it is not yours to make. You don't know if God desires His people to build places of worship, do you?

Sincerely,
Why So Bold?

Dear Why So Bold,

We feel comfortable making that bold statement (and you are right, it is bold!) because God says He has told us what is good (Mic 6:8) and that the way to worship Him in a pleasing way is to listen to what He says He wants in worship (Eccl 5:1-2). It isn’t enough to say, “The Bible doesn’t say I can’t worship God in such and such a way”… according to Heb 7:14, 1 Cor 4:6, and Rev 22:18-19, silence in the Bible is prohibitive.  If the Bible is silent on a subject, we must be, too.  That is exactly why we don’t have instrumental music in worship – the Scriptures never authorize it, so, by default, it is prohibited. We would disagree with you that the burden is on us to prove that you can’t do something – we would say the opposite.  Whenever we do something, we must prove that the Bible authorizes it.

With that under our belt, lets talk about how we can know whether or not God is okay with things like building church buildings or any other behavior not specifically found in the Scripture – it all comes down to authority.  If God authorizes something through His Word, then we can know He is okay with us doing it.  There are three ways to establish Bible authority:

1. A direct command.  If the Bible gives us a direct command on a subject, that is the easiest way to find authority.  For example, 1 Cor 16:2 is a direct command to take up a collection on the first day of the week.
2. Approved examples.  If we find an example in the New Testament that clearly is approved by God, we can use that to establish authority.  2 Thess 3:9 says that it is proper for Christians to imitate the faithful actions of those we read about in the Bible.
3. Necessary inference.  ‘Necessary inference’ is another way of saying that something must logically be true.  Necessary inference means that we use logic to put Bible concepts and teachings together to come up with proper conclusions.  For more on that subject, read “Necessary Inference”.

After finding authority through the Scriptures, the last thing to consider is how specific the authority is.  Every command that you find in the Bible has specific and general qualities to it.  For example, when God told Noah to build the ark, He told Noah to use a specific kind of wood (gopher wood – Gen 6:14) and build the ark to specific dimensions (Gen 6:15-16), but He left the details of how to cut, fasten, and construct the ark up to Noah.  It would have been wrong for Noah to use oak or birch, and it would have been wrong for Noah to change the dimensions of the ark, but aside from that, Noah had freedom to use his own wisdom in the engineering of the ark.  The things that God was specific on, Noah had to be specific on, too… but the things God was general about, Noah had freedom to decide for himself.

Another way of saying this is that anything required to fulfill a command is inherent within the command.  This means that if I ask someone to fill my car with gasoline, by default, I have given them permission to drive my car and take it to a gas station of their choosing.  Why?  Because driving my car and going to a gas station are necessary to fulfill that command, and I didn’t tell them which gas station I wanted, so I’ve left that to their discretion.

There are many things that congregations do today (such as own buildings, purchase songbooks, etc.) that the Bible never specifically authorizes, but they fall under general authority.  For example, the commands that give a congregation the authority to own property can be found in Heb 10:24-25 and 1 Cor 14:26.  In both those verses, the church is commanded to assemble.  We are told that we must assemble, or we will be displeasing to God… but we aren’t told where to assemble; that detail is left to our discretion.  We could meet in homes (if we had ones that were big enough), we could meet in a park (if it were legal and weather permitting), or we could buy some property and a building to use.

This is a lengthy answer, but it is a difficult question to answer without some length.  Hopefully, that helps as you try and find Bible authority for everything that you do.

Hi, it's been a while since I've asked you a question.  I have had it in my conscience recently, something that I need to get off my chest.  I have recently been talking to an ex-girlfriend who I care about a lot.  We were together before I was saved, and I broke up with her for a couple of problems in me and us.  We moved really fast, and we had premarital sex.  This decision sparked selfish urges in me that originally started when I first saw porn magazines in middle school.  I had seen them from time to time, and the feelings grew because I was living in the world.  What we did put me over the edge, and I cheated on her; it was long distance.  She still doesn't know about it.

About seven months later, I broke up with her because I knew there was something wrong with me, and these urges couldn't be controlled by me alone.  I set a course to find God, and through many falls, I finally was saved.  Before I left her, I gave her a Bible and told her that I didn't feel comfortable with things we did and that I needed to leave her to find redemption.  She is living as a christian now but still young in the Word.  Through my years of experience, God has strengthened me not to fall and that  should confide in Jesus and my brothers for prayer and accountability.  We have recently started talking again, and I still see her as the person I want to be with for the rest of my life.

My question is: If I want to make it right and be with her, should I tell her all my secrets?  This is what I feel I'm led to do before I go any further with talking to her.

Sincerely,
A Lot Of Water Under The Bridge

Dear A Lot Of Water Under The Bridge,

You should be open with her about your past for two reasons:

1. Your conscience is bothering you about this, and you should always strive to have a pure conscience before God and man (1 Tim 3:9, 1 Tim 1:5).
2. God highly esteems honesty and truthfulness (Pr 24:26, Lk 8:15).

One of the hallmarks of a faithful life is the willingness to have our lives revealed by the light of truth (Jhn 3:19-21).  The truth always sets us free (Jhn 8:32).  You made it clear that you would like to see this relationship progress toward marriage someday.  Marriage is a commitment that makes your two lives into a shared existence (Eph 5:31).  Every healthy marriage is built upon Christ (Eph 5:23), love (Eph 5:28, 1 Cor 13:4-7), respect (Eph 5:33), and devotion (Eph 5:31, 1 Cor 7:33).  None of those things can properly exist with deception as the foundation.  It is better to tell the truth and lose her than to build a marriage upon lies (Pr 23:23).

I've lost my job and I have a family to take care of. What are God's promises about my financial situation?

Sincerely,
At A Loss

Dear At A Loss,

We are so sorry for what you are going through.  Here are some verses we have taken comfort in during times of great stress, loss, or financial difficulty:

• I have been young, and now am old; yet have I not seen the righteous forsaken, nor his seed begging bread. (Ps 37:25)
• And we know that to them that love God all things work together for good, even to them that are called according to his purpose. (Rom 8:28)
• Therefore do not be anxious, saying, What shall we eat? or What shall we drink? or What shall we wear? For the Gentiles seek after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them all. But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you. (Matt 6:31-33)

God guarantees that He will care for His own.  All we need to do is remain faithful to Him through the waiting.

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